The joy of watching my eldest daughter get engaged this past week was so excited. She joined our lives as an older teenager, and since then, we’ve built memories together, forming a bond I cherish more than I can express. Now, as we embark on wedding planning, I find myself reflecting on the balance between traditional expectations and the financial realities of planning a modern wedding.
Engaged, No Date Set
While we’ve been anticipating this was going to happen. Neither of us knew it was coming so soon. He asked my permission and I was thrilled to welcome him into the family. And she was shocked when he dropped down to one knee in front of our local waterfall and popped the question.
No date has been set, but right now, we are planning on a long engagement. And she is adamant that she wants a very small, intimate wedding.
Tradition vs Modern Options
Here’s a glimpse into our journey, especially as it relates to navigating wedding traditions through a financial lens:
- The Venue: Traditional Halls vs. Budget-Friendly Options In many traditional weddings, the venue is one of the biggest expenses – often a lavish hall or a scenic location. For us, though, the focus is less on grandeur and more on intimacy. We’re exploring local community spaces, parks, or even a family member’s property that would create a cozy, welcoming environment. It’s incredible to see my daughter embrace this approach, valuing meaningful memories over a costly backdrop.
- Guest List: Family and Community vs. Close-Knit Affordability Traditionally, weddings can be large gatherings, with guest lists that grow to include extended family and community members. We’re being mindful of the financial aspect, though, and my daughter is prioritizing a smaller, more intentional guest list, focused on those who have played a significant role in her life. It’s a decision that will help keep us within budget while also making the celebration feel deeply personal.
- Wedding Dress: Traditional Elegance vs. Financial Practicality Growing up, my daughter did not really dream about a specific wedding dress, and now, she’s thrilled to choose something beautiful and affordable. While traditional wedding dresses can be pricey, she’s exploring options like consignment stores, sample sales, and even rentals. Her willingness to consider alternatives reflects her practicality and independence – qualities I admire so much. (We are going to do a dress shopping day with her best friend and Princess at a bridal shop. This will help to narrow down styles and then figure out how to get what she wants affordably. And we do have my mom’s veil so she plans to wear that.)
Planning has Just Begun
This planning process has just begun. We are wheedling down a list of traditions we honor and the financial mindfulness we’re embracing. Every choice will be rooted in love and practicality, with a sprinkle of joy for the new chapter ahead. I couldn’t be prouder or more grateful to support her in this unique journey.
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